My early memories involve us bumping into one another at the tents of NY Fashion Week, tech events and anything glam and amazing. We would tell our life stories in a matter of minutes or maybe a few hours! To know her is to be drawn to her and recently I love that we have been able to hang out more! If you heard my radio interview with her earlier this year then you know that Shoshi (Yolanda Shoshana) is the Modern Day Courtesan and Luscious Lifestyle Diva! She teaches us how to still retain our natural sexiness and how to initiate it in a world where many times our focuses are all over the place. Bi weekly she will share her sexy insights with us and I'm so happy that she is on board! In keeping with her name, her segments are Keeping it Luscious! Last time she laid out how to lead a sensual life as we can't get caught up in our day to day! Today she shares the importance of the four letter word.

There is one little four letter word that can change a person's life for better or for worse. That magical word is love.

From the day we are born our parents begin their picture of what our love life will be. It's all so nice and neat, but in reality a love life is never as picture perfect as we would like it to be. Love can be magical, but also leave you with a few bumps and bruises. Sometimes you may even feel like the theme song for your love life is the classic hit, "Love is a Battlefield" by Pat Benatar.

Ever notice how the friends who always want to give you love advice are the ones in the worst relationships? They think they are Oprah or Dr. Phil when their relationships could be broadcast on Jerry Springer. So why would you listen to them when they tell you that you are too picky?

You already know that he's just not that into you, you now know how to think like a man, but act like a lady or better yet, you may still be practicing the rules. Every few years, a book for women comes out that tells us how men/ women think. Long story short, we take this advice for a period of time; get frustrated only to wait till the next self help relationship book is out. It is a vicious cycle, only if you let it become one.

Let's face it, we all know at least one woman like this: she has a dream job, makes good money, owns her own property, but as soon as she starts talking about her love life, she become a mess! She talks about how she is getting cheated on or how she is dating a married man. Basically she may look well put together, but has more drama in her life than anyone else you know. If you don't know this woman, it could in fact be you.

I am not saying that we all have not been in a relationship that was not the best, after all that is how we learn our best lessons. Within all the circumstances, variables, environments, drama, etc. there is one love that rises above all love. That love is, self love.

Self love is the one love that gets put on the back burner. Self love is the one love that can and will help you with your best life. Until you truly love yourself, no one else will be able to love you. It sounds so simple, yet there are so many women who find it hard to do. Your degree of self love determines how your other relationships play out.

By loving yourself, you say "no" to dysfunctional relationships, to being a jump off; stop telling yourself this is as good as it gets, stop dumbing yourself down on dates, etc. Realize how fabulous you are and stop settling for "okay" or "good enough."

You are the Queen of your own destiny. That means you can have the relationship you want, how you want it, and on your own terms. It can be hard sometimes when you make the decision to not settle. In the long run you will be much happier and you will have the luscious life you deserve.

In your quest to stay on point with self love there are two fun things that you can do to keep you feeling luscious:

Next time you are walking by a mirror take a good look at yourself and say, "I look good. Really, really good." Seriously do this for yourself and remember how it feels. It is that feeling which makes all the difference in your heart, mind, and soul. Say it loud and say it proud. It will give you such a radiant feeling.

The other thing you can do is next time somebody asks how you are, instead if saying "Fine," say, "Sassy," "Sexy," "Fabulous," or any other wonderful word that comes to your mind. It will put a spring in your step and a sparkle in your eye. When you say it as an affirmation you will embody it.

Determine your own definition of love and do not apologize for it. In reality nobody can ensure your happiness but you.

Yolanda Shoshana “Shoshi” is a media personality, courtesan coach, sensualist, speaker, writer living in New York City known as the Luscious Lifestyle Diva. Self growth and following her bliss has always been a key part of her life. Shoshi followed her entrepreneur spirit by starting a lifestyle company that engages the senses to help people live lusciously. The services include: courtesan coaching™,workshops/classes, pleasure planning, image consulting, empowerment through media, wedding officiating, etc. She is the founder of the School of Courtisane Moderne, a modern day courtesan school which teaches women the art of seduction. She also is the creatrix and sensualist of luscious creams, potions, etc. that helps women unleash their inner courtesan!